Co-parenting With a Narcissist

Co-parenting is difficult. Co-parenting becomes more difficult if one parent is not cooperative or is narcissistic. Narcissists typically have an inflated sense of self-importance, a history of unstable relationships, a lack of empathy, and an extreme need for attention. These traits create a perfect storm in the context of co-parenting.

Healthy co-parenting relationships rely on compromise, communication, and a collective goal of acting in a child’s best interest. Narcissists often will not be able to set aside the conflict between the parties in the interest of parenting a child cooperatively, and sometimes go as far as to use the child against the other parent. Narcissists are fueled by a need for control which often results in their making choices and acting in a manner which only serves their own interests.

Co-parenting with a narcissist is bound to be a high-conflict situation and a source of significant stress. It is important to set boundaries, to seek support from professionals or from the court, to take the high road, and to have a very detailed custody order in place. The more detailed an order is, the less you will need to communicate with the other party. It is also important to engage in self-care to ensure that you can continue to be a positive influence for your child in spite of the behavior of your co-parent.

If you are struggling to co-parent with someone who displays narcissistic traits, we can be of help. Call Fastman Family Law, LLC at 610-222-5930.